In both places we had nice ladies' sangas, and in Nashik I was requested to conduct a one-day Holy Name Retreat at the goshala - a 20-minute drive away from the temple - which was well attended and received with appreciation and gratitude. In both places we also churned the topic of The False Ego - Our Constant Companion and Troublemaker which is always a catchy topic for men and women alike.
In this way, a subtle business deal develops: “I glorify you and offer flattering words, and you are my well-wisher and supporter. You give me little privileges and flattering words in return.”
Whoever offers such glorifications in fact intends to be glorified by bringing attention to himself. Such subtle business ‘arrangements’ contaminate our heart. It is not the recommended way in which to appreciate and glorify devotees. They are merely flattering words offered with some ulterior motive. Some people may, for example, have the strong need to always feel liked by others. It may often go back to some insecurities resulting from childhood. When a person did not receive enough attention from their mother, it may result in such hankering for being liked. In this way, devotees may fall prey to such business deals of massaging each other’s false egos to fulfil their own needs.
Being introspective and understanding our own insecurities, we then can pray to the Lord to help us find Krishna conscious means to fulfil our needs without massaging our egos.
On the 23rd of November I reached Vrindavan....
Your servant, Devaki dd