I stayed in the country side with Navadvip Prabhu and his wife Caitanya Rupa Mataji - around 50 minutes' drive from the temple, and Julia from Kharkov had come to take care of all my needs. It was a peaceful environment, and during the day I could find time to continue working on my next book.
Srila Prabhupada gives the nice analogy of the man/woman attraction being like a thorn in our foot. It is a painful situation, causing trouble and misery and entangling us in material existence. If one is expert, one can take another thorn and use it skillfully in order to remove the first thorn. The second thorn is the grhastha ashram - a recommended way to become free from the man/woman attraction. However, if we are not so skillful, then we end up with two thorns in our foot! This indeed seems to take place a lot - because of lack of training and education how to use the thorn in an expert way.
Srila Prabhupada expresses this in a letter to Sudevi Dasi in 1972:
"Marriage between husband and wife means that the husband must forever be responsible for the wife's well-being and protection in all cases. That does not mean that now there is agreement between us, therefore I am responsible, but as soon as there is some disagreement then I immediately flee the scene and become so-called renounced. Whether your husband likes to take responsibility as your spiritual guide or not, that does not matter. He must do it. It is his duty because he has taken you as his wife. Therefore he must take full responsibility for you the rest of his life. And you also must agree to serve him under all circumstances and assist him in every way so that he may make advancement in Krishna consciousness. By his making advancement in Krishna consciousness, automatically the wife will make advancement in the husband's footsteps. But if you do not assist him and be very obedient to his welfare, then he may become disgusted and go away. So there must be mutual responsibility by both parties, and now that you are married couple there is no question of your separation, but you must both strive very hard to serve Krishna together in harmony. What are these nonsense emotions that cause you to go this way and that way, the real thing is your duty. Now you are married couple, you know what your duty is, so best thing is to perform your duty and always think of Krsna. Never mind some temporary inconveniences, we must remain steady in our duty to Krishna."
On the 2nd of October I flew on to Germany........
Your servant, Devaki dd